Relationship as a living organism

“Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won’t adhere to any rules.”

There is no definitive point at which issues cease to arise in the life of a partnership. As with any practice, the process itself is the solution. I approach relationship as the complex, mutable organism that it is.

The work of couples therapy revolves around how to live more consciously inside of an ever-changing dynamic. Contrary to popular wisdom, a "good relationship" is not about merely eradicating conflict and eliminating tension. Freedom does not come from securing a mundane homeostatic range. Rather, it comes from having the ability to move fluidly through shared space, even when the whim of the moment is fickle or unfavorable. Too often, we seek to impose fixed notions of security upon a living, breathing structure that is, by nature, wild.  Desire is potentially our greatest teacher if we learn how to work with it instead of against it.